ovarian cancer

Love and Light for Katie

It was so lovely to have the opportunity to speak about the importance of an early ovarian cancer diagnosis in Edinburgh tonight on behalf of Target Ovarian Cancer, at an event organised to raise money for this incredible charity.

I was invited to speak at the event by an incredible man named Michael who worked tirelessly to create a spectacular evening so that money could be raised in memory of his dear childhood friend Katie who sadly passed away at the age of 21 following an ovarian cancer diagnosis. Having met several of Katie’s friends this evening, and sharing the same oncologist, I can say with confidence that I believe she was a wonderful young woman full of positivity and love.


It is an honour to be able to raise awareness in her name so that more women can be diagnosed early and increase their chances of survival. How lovely and inspiring it is to see her loved ones create such positivity in her name.

Thank you to everyone involved for letting me be a part of your special evening. I was so deeply moved by your words and hugs and it was my utmost privilege to meet you all.

With love and light always to each and every one of you, Fi xxx

#ThinkTeal

T – toilet habit changes

E – energy levels dropping

A – abdominal pain or swelling

L – loss of appetite

If two or more of these symptoms persist for two weeks or longer visit your GP and request a CA125 blood test AND an ultra sound 💜🙏🏻💕

Smear tests DO NOT screen for ovarian cancer and the symptoms whisper xxx

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Random Act of Kindness – Number 10

A couple of days ago I handed out my 10th random act of kindness envelope. This one was slightly different from the others as it was partly a ‘thank you’…let me explain…

If you are new to my blog – When my loved ones raised £500 for my husband and I to treat ourselves following my operation we made the decision to use the money to do random acts of kindness for complete strangers…

We didn’t want to profit from my diagnosis and the idea of sharing the love and kindness given to us filled us with so much more happiness than spending it on something ever could.

So since then we’ve been handing out envelopes with either a £10 or £20 note inside.
There are now 32 envelopes in total thanks to two additional anonymous donations of £30 from the ‘lace maker’ and £40 from ‘D&L’, both of which I am extremely grateful for.

My husband and I were on a wee two day trip to Edinburgh – an escape from hospitals and all things ‘cancer’. We were wondering the streets looking for somewhere for lunch when my husband noticed an Italian restaurant advertising organic gluten free food! Amazing! I’ve been gluten free since 2010 and now, wherever possible, try to eat only organic so this was perfect!


We went in and were welcomed by lovely staff and a great selection of gluten free options. I’m so glad I have my appetite back and that I’m able to eat properly again!

Following a delicious lunch I thought I’d chance my luck and see if their cakes were gluten free too. I wasn’t disappointed! They had a vast selection of homemade options. As the owner/manager (I’m not sure of her exact role but she had a presence of authority) described all the dessert options she asked if I’d had pasta for lunch. I explained that I’d had a GF panini as I hadn’t known they did GF pasta. She went on to explain that not only did they do GF pasta but that it was fresh homemade GF pasta. I was shocked. I am always in awe when an eatery goes above and beyond to cater for food allergies. 

Whilst eating my cake I watched as she explained to her team that they need to tell GF customers about the homemade GF pasta. I was smiling to myself as I observed, there was something about her energy and clear passion for her business and customers that caught my eye. I wanted to thank her for being inclusive of people with food allergies not just on a basic level but going above and beyond to provide homemade options.


It may sound crazy to most, but if you’ve got a food allergy it’s something you’ll understand.

I questioned myself several times before deciding to give her an envelope: would I be better giving it to a customer? Or perhaps one of the waiting staff? But every time she caught my eye my instinct screamed that I should give her the envelope. I’m a strong believer in listening to gut feelings. It’s never let me down and I’ve always regretted ignoring it so, listening, I handed her the envelope as we left.


This was a few days ago and, as always, I’d been thinking about whether she had been pleased to receive the envelope or if she’d thought me a little mad…

Then, out of the blue she sent me a message and it was wonderful. In fact, it was one of the most beautiful thank you messages I’ve ever received. It really touched my heart. I’ll not share it all here, instead I’ll share just one extract that really touched me…

“Hi Fi…In all the 40 years I’ve worked in this business nothing has touched my heart as much as your kindness did that afternoon when you handed me that envelope…”

I had tears in my eyes as I read that. This is exactly why I hand out these envelopes. Seeing the joy and impact they have on the recipients and others is one of my greatest joys. Knowing that I can spread this joy whilst going through one of the toughest times of my life is a gift that I cannot express. It certainly plays a massive role in keeping me going and helping me to stay so positive.

Making someone else happy is the most rewarding kind of happiness there is.


As if her beautiful message wasn’t wonderful enough, she has also offered to ‘pay it forward’ and donate to the masquerade ball my sister has organised to raise money for macmillan. Isn’t that wonderful! 

Whilst I cannot express how wonderful it feels to hand out random acts of kindness you can feel it for yourself by always being kind whenever it’s possible and it’s always possible!

Love and light, Fi xxx

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Random Act of Kindness No 9

I handed out another random act of kindness envelope!…I’m pleased to say it still gives me an awesome feeling and so much joy!


If you are new to my blog – When my loved ones raised £500 for my husband and I to treat ourselves following my operation we made the decision to use the money to do random acts of kindness for complete strangers…

We didn’t want to profit from my diagnosis and the idea of sharing the love and kindness given to us filled us with so much more happiness than spending it on something ever could.

So since then we’ve been handing out envelopes with either a £10 or £20 note inside.

There are now 32 envelopes in total thanks to two additional anonymous donations of £30 from the ‘lace maker’ and £40 from ‘D&L’, both of which I am extremely grateful for.

I had made a two day trip to Edinburgh with my husband, party as a surprise for his birthday and also partly to celebrate completing 6 rounds of chemotherapy. Also, let’s be honest, after spending two out of the last six months in hospital it was just pretty amazing to be away from the usual routine and enjoy being a couple in a different city. Tiring but amazing!…anyway, as usual, I digress…

We were walking through the busy festival streets watching the various street performers when I was struck by an amazing singer. I mean, her voice was incredible. I asked my husband to film me while I placed an envelope in front of her. The reason for this was two fold:

  1.  I wanted to show people how easy it is to hand over a random act of kindness envelope 💖
  2. My blog now has over 24000 readers and I thought why not give this girl an audience by sharing the video! Maybe it will create some new fans!

​As it turns out, however, the girl already has a substantial fan base…

We walked away, me still buzzing with happiness at surprising a stranger, and soon moved on to other things, no longer thinking about it. However, that evening (and this is where it gets freaky!) I received a message from one of the recipients of my first act of kindness. It turns out that the singer has posted about the act of kindness on her public Facebook page and recipient number one had been tagged in the post by her husband’s cousin who knows the singer! Talk about small world!…we were in a completely different city!

As if that wasn’t crazy enough, the singer then tagged me in a post on Twitter and it turns out that she was a 2015 XFactor finalist!

Please take some time to enjoy her wonderful voice. She really is very talented.

Love and light, Fi xx

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Random Act of Kindness – No 8

Recently I handed out my 8th random act of kindness envelope – this time in Edinburgh!

If you are new to my blog – When my loved ones raised £500 for my husband and I to treat ourselves following my operation we made the decision to use the money to do random acts of kindness for complete strangers…

We didn’t want to profit from my diagnosis and the idea of sharing the love and kindness given to us filled us with so much more happiness than spending it on something ever could.

So since then we’ve been handing out envelopes with either a £10 or £20 note inside.

There are now 32 envelopes in total thanks to two additional anonymous donations of £30 from the ‘lace maker’ and £40 from ‘D&L’, both of which I am extremely grateful for.


I was gifted tickets to see my first opera with my hubby, after I’d expressed my enjoyment of a ‘taster’ evening in Vienna last December whilst on holiday to celebrate our two year wedding anniversary – man does that feel like a million years ago now!

So, a few weeks ago, my husband and I traveled to Edinburgh to watch Cecilia Bartoli perform Norma. It was incredible! I was completely blown away by her voice and the music. I even bought the cd which I now play daily in my car! It’s so moving!


Before the opera we popped into a nearby India restaurant – Mother India – for a quick dinner. I LOVE spicy food!

As it was the opening night of Edinburgh Festival, the restaurant was extremely busy and so we were invited to share a table with a lovely couple who kindly offered us help with navigating the tapas style menu.

Finishing their meal before us and making their way to the opera, a young couple soon took their place. I was struck instantly by their energy. They were laughing and smiling and friendly…making jokes with one another and us. I love those kinds of people!

I smiled at my husband, thinking to myself that I’d like to give them one of my random acts of kindness envelopes.

My husband, without me voicing a word of my thoughts, just laughed, shook his head and said ‘oh go on, get the envelope out your bag’…

He clearly knows me far too well!

So, in my usual style, I waited until we were leaving and placed the envelope between the couple saying that it was a gift for them. As we walked away I heard the girl declare “oh my god” as she realised what I had handed her. Instantly I had the same buzz and excitement I’d had when I handed over my first envelope! I love doing this so much. It gives me such a great feeling!

Always remember – you will never regret being kind.

Love and light, Fi xxx