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It’s Not Your Fault

“Your cancer* is not your fault. You did not do anything wrong. Do not ever blame yourself or waste a single second of your beautiful life feeling guilty.”

*or any other kind of dis-ease or trauma in your life or body.

This is an important message for everyone reading this post, not just those with cancer.

One of the biggest issues with trauma recovery is self blame, hate or guilt.

So, for those moments when you feel the weight of the guilty, the blame and even the shame (and yes I’ve been there too!) please read through these important statements:

IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT.

YOU ARE PERFECT.

YOU ARE HEALING.

YOU GOT THIS.

I AM RIGHT HERE

BESIDE YOU, HOLDING YOUR HAND, EVERY STEP OF THE WAY.

YOU ARE A MOTHERF*CKING BADASS. NEVER FORGET THAT!

Wishing you an epic day of healing and self-love.

Love, Fi xxx

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Fi is Currently:*

Listening to a bee buzz around my head as I type this post while sitting on the decking outside our kitchen doors, soaking up the Scottish sunshine.

Looking forward to a walk on St Andrew’s beach this afternoon with my gorgeous dog Ozzy.

Grateful for this beautiful day and for the connections I made at Trew Fields Festival at the start of the month.

Loving my amazing husband.

Excited to be spending Saturday evening with one of my favourite humans.

*this idea was taken with gratitude from Slow Your Home. Check it out.

2 thoughts on “It’s Not Your Fault”

  1. Yes, yes, yes, yes. A thousand times, yes. We carry so much self-guilt and self-hate on our shoulders. We need to fully absorb your words here. I’m going to print this out and hang it on my wall. I remember a woman telling me that lymphoma was my fault. And I remember more vividly, a nurse when I was starting into a miscarriage saying ‘nothing you did caused this, and nothing you can do right now will change the outcome’. I was in the ER. I immediately burst into tears, because her words, at that moment, took away all the guilt I hadn’t even realized was on my heart. Such kindness and understanding from a stranger. Her words, years later, remind me still to offer myself that same kindness and understanding. And my son is now 23 and the lymphoma has been gone for almost three years.

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